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[ Wednesday, Aug. 9, 2006 ]

What's love got to do with it? Students share dating advice for freshmen
Fresh Start 2006

Collegian Staff Writer

Freshmen who are used to typical high school dinner-and-a-movie dates may find the college dating scene especially hard to adjust to.

Michelle Yi (freshman-division of undergraduate studies) said she had the opportunity to explore the collegiate dating scene before other freshmen because she attended summer session.

She said she was not impressed.

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CHEAP DATES
  1. Stargazing on the roof of a parking garage
  2. Playing online flash games in the computer lab
  3. Making crafts at Late Night Penn State
  4. Playing on the HUB lawn
  5. Exploring creepy basements
  6. Solving a Sudoku together
  7. Riding the elevator in the Pattee library stacks
  8. Folding laundry
  9. Sitting by the pond at the alumni center
  10. Sharing a piece of pie at the dining commons
  11. Watching a DVD on a residence hall big-screen TV
  12. Finding the artificial insemination historical marker on campus
  13. Reading magazines at the library
  14. Playing pool in a residence hall recreation room
  15. Ramen noodles “Lady and the Tramp” style

"All the guys here are taken or not boyfriend material," Yi said. "A lot of freshmen guys are in party mode and won't be into the dating scene until they are sophomores or juniors."

Unlike Yi, who came to college single, some freshmen come to Penn State still attached to a significant other from high school who they left behind.

Maintaining a long distance relationship can be difficult during college, Gwen Withers (freshman-biology) said, but she is still willing to give it a chance.

Withers met her boyfriend, Kevin, through a mutual friend, and they have been together for three months.

Since Withers will be at Penn State while Kevin attends Gettysburg College this fall, they will be more than two hours apart.

"For our first date we went on a blind date to Wal-Mart and just walked around and played with the giant balls for about an hour," Withers said. "Since my brother goes to Penn State and I can use his car, we're going to try and visit each other twice a month."

Kristina Hernandez (senior-biology and forensics) said she tried to maintain a long distance relationship while in college but it didn't last.

Hernandez was three hours away from her boyfriend, Chris, and they dated for four months.

"We saw each other once a month, but distance wasn't an issue with our relationship except for the fact of meeting guys up here," she said.

She said with so many single guys at Penn State, she was holding back to think there was no one else.

"I broke up with him because I thought I could find someone better."

Carolina Villanueva/Collegian Photo Illustration
Carolina Villanueva/Collegian Photo Illustration
Dating in college is different than in high school, but “the one” may still be out there.


Hernandez said the traditional dating rituals of high school are left by the wayside in college.

"In college, you mostly meet guys at a party, and they'll call you up on weekends to see what party you're going to," she said. "Occasionally, you meet someone that wants to see you in the daylight."

Michelle Ripka, who graduated from Penn State in May, also said that the college dating scene is much more relaxed than it was in high school.

"College students just act differently, and get approached differently," she said. "In college relationships, more or less you hang out, date, and when an anniversary pops up, you establish when you started dating."

Ripka and her boyfriend, Dan, met each other at work. The two have been together for three years now, because of his maturity.

However, Ripka said that most college guys aren't mature enough for a relationship.

Paul Jacobs (junior-kinesiology) disagreed.

"Freshmen girls are only interested in hanging out with their girlfriends and getting with guys," he said. "They're definitely not relationship material."

Jacobs said age takes a big role in a student's interest in a relationship.

It isn't until her junior year that a girl starts to want a relationship, he said.

For those who enjoy the physical aspects of a relationship but don't want to deal with the emotional aspects, "friends with benefits" is often an option.

"Friends with benefits is a beautiful thing because there is a 'no strings attached' policy," Jacobs said.

However, Jacobs cautions students with the intention of becoming involved in a "friends with benefits" situation because of potential drawbacks.

"The problem with friends with benefits is when one person develops feelings and wants a relationship, but when that happens you just dump that girl and find another."


Carolina Villanueva/Collegian Photo Illustration
Carolina Villanueva/Collegian Photo Illustration
Couples will find many places to be publicly affectionate at Penn State.

 



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