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Natalie Inger is a sophomore majoring in journalism and a Collegian staff writer. Her email address is nmi104@psu.edu.
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OPINIONS
[ Tuesday, March 1, 2005 ]

My Opinion
No title, no holding back for breakers

Ah, Spring Break. The weeklong holiday in March that allows us to leave behind the snow -- and our inhibitions.

It's a week synonymous with excessive partying, complete with bars that have specials on beers on tap, wet T-shirt contests that start every night at 8 and bikini-clad students who will do anything to be featured in the next installment of Girls Gone Wild.

For singles, Spring Break is heaven-sent. No commitments equal a scot-free and scotch-full vacation.

But what does it mean for those of us who have male or female counterparts to consider? This environment breeds disaster for anyone trying to keep their partner all to themselves. In a world where anything goes, most guys and gals have their eyes on the prize, which could be a well-endowed blonde sitting at the bar with whipped-cream-clothing melting away in the sun.

If you are in a real relationship -- the kind where you are officially labeled as a "boyfriend" or "girlfriend" -- then you better watch out, you better not cry, you better not cheat, I'm telling you why ... after break you'll come back to town.

And once your weeklong retreat of drunken jollies is just a blurred memory, you'll have to unpack your bags and face the one you actually claim to care about.

But here's a sticky situation: What if you've just begun to date someone? Where should you draw the line in the Spring Break sand if you are not technically in a full-blown relationship? I say nowhere. There is no line. If you don't have the title, then you shouldn't be subjected to the restrictions that come with it.

The trick is, if you aren't official, then you aren't official. Maybe it's too soon to tell because you just met. Maybe you could see yourself ending up with this person. Whatever your individual story, I don't care.

The reason I don't care is simple. I have seen too many guys and girls totally smitten with someone that is just not as smitten about them in return. Restraining yourself for someone when it is impossible to predict whether they would do the same for you is a waste of your valuable time. Do you think they hold back for you? Be honest with yourself: You're not sure. You're not sure if this relationship is going anywhere. Hell, you're not even sure whether your guy or girl considers what you have to even be a relationship. So don't count your chickens before they hatch. If you're not a boyfriend or a girlfriend, you're a single. Get over it and milk it for what it's worth.

If you are truly head-over-heels into someone, not only will you want to make him or her yours, but you won't feel compelled to hook up with someone else.

It could very well be that you'll find yourself staring into your empty Corona wishing that he or she was there.

But until then, enjoy your license to party.

 

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